Todd Tucker is trying to have it both ways. Days after his ex-wife Kandi Burruss accused him of “sensationalizing” their sex life for attention, the former Real Housewives of Atlanta producer sat down on Yung Joc & The Streetz Morning Takeover and offered something that sounded like an apology — and something that sounded like a rebuttal.
The clip spreading Thursday frames the moment simply: Tucker apologizes after revealing private details about their marriage, including that the couple had threesomes for most of their 11 years together.
Todd Tucker Addresses Kandi Burruss After Airing Their Sex Life — Then Softens the Blow On Radio
The fuller interview is more complicated. He says he never wanted a public smear campaign. He also says Burruss’s statement is “not accurate,” and that he will not accept that kind of disrespect from her camp again.
How the latest fight started
The spark was not the radio interview. It was a trailer.
On September 14, Tucker posted promotional footage for ’Til Divorce Do Us Part, a self-produced project about his life after the split. In the clip, fellow RHOA alum Peter Thomas — Cynthia Bailey’s ex-husband — asks whether Tucker and Burruss really had threesomes. Tucker does not hedge.
“We did,” he says. “I would say for most of our marriage we did.”
Thomas’s punchline — that he is “a saint” by comparison — is what made the moment travel. Within 48 hours, the quote was everywhere: People, Page Six, Us Weekly, Bravo’s Daily Dish. The marketing around Tucker’s project made the framing even sharper. Promotional copy has sold the series as the other side of Burruss’s story: “Kandi’s tour gave you one side. This is the other side. What she didn’t say. What went down behind closed doors.”
Burruss answered the next day in a statement to People. She did not deny that consensual threesomes happened. She objected to him putting them back in public after the divorce.
“A man who has already hurt me to my core is furthering the damage by choosing to sensationalize our sex life to stretch his five minutes of fame,” she said. “What consensually happens between a husband and wife in the privacy of their marriage is exactly that — private. His current behavior has only confirmed that I did the right thing by getting divorced. I Do, I Did, I’m Done!”
The last line is a callback to her one-woman show about the end of the marriage. That is part of why this fight feels circular. Both of them have already turned the divorce into content. The argument now is over who crossed the line, and by how much.
What Tucker actually said on the radio
On Thursday’s Streetz Morning Takeover appearance with Yung Joc, Mz Shyneka, and Shawty Shawty, Tucker walked through the backlash and then delivered a message aimed at Burruss.
He argued that the threesome comment was not a new confession. Burruss has talked about bringing other people into their sex life before, including on her Kandi Koated Nights platform. In Tucker’s telling, the trailer was a “normal conversation,” not a hyped tell-all. “I haven’t given out any new information,” he said. “I’m not doing a tell-all book or nothing like that. I’m just talking about my emotions and feelings as I went through a divorce.”
Then he read her statement on air and rejected it.
“That statement is not accurate,” he said. “If you’ve been talking about threesomes the whole time, how are you saying it’s private now?” He also said he is “not trying to bash her” or “hurt her.” Clips circulating from the same interview go further: Tucker says Burruss needs to fire “the whole team” over the wording, and that he will never take that kind of disrespect from her family or team again.
The apology, such as it is, comes at the end. Looking toward camera, he said he did not want any of this, would never smear her name, and would “never say nothing foul.”
“She would forever be my people. That’s it. 100%.”
He also said he would not have left the marriage. “I think we needed some work, but no. I would have never left.” He described the divorce as one of the worst experiences of his life, second only to his mother’s death, and said he is going to church and planning to start therapy. “Brothers, we got to talk. We got to get it off our chest.”
That is the version of the interview now traveling as an apology. It is less a clean “I’m sorry I said it” than a “I didn’t mean to hurt you, and I still consider you family.” For some listeners, that distinction will not matter. For others, it will be the whole story.
The marriage they keep relitigating
Tucker and Burruss met in 2011 while he was working as a line producer on The Real Housewives of Atlanta. They got engaged in 2013 and married in April 2014 in a ceremony Bravo turned into Kandi’s Wedding. They share two children, Ace, 10, and Blaze, 6. Burruss also has daughter Riley from a previous relationship; Tucker has daughter Kaela.
Burruss announced the split on November 21, 2025, saying the decision came after “deep thought and a lot of prayer” and that her focus was peace, co-parenting, and her own growth. She later told Andy Cohen she knew the marriage was over months before the public announcement, pointing to a July 2025 incident she has not detailed. The divorce was finalized in March 2026. Reports on the settlement have described joint legal and physical custody and a lump-sum payment from Burruss to Tucker of about $426,000.
Even after the paperwork was done, they did not fully disappear from each other’s lives. In June, Burruss posted from a family vacation with Tucker and the kids. In one clip, she panned to him poolside with a Daily Prayers for Men book and joked that she never saw that version of him during nearly 12 years of marriage. “He should’ve started praying a long time ago,” she said. When a fan asked if reconciliation was coming, she shut it down: “Nah, I am not healed.”
That is the awkward backdrop to this week. They are co-parents. They are also two public figures still mining the same relationship for separate projects.
Why the “privacy” argument cut so deep
The threesome talk is not, strictly speaking, a secret in RHOA lore. Burruss has acknowledged at times that she and Tucker experimented in their marriage. She has also spent years batting away specific rumors, including a 2019 claim involving friend Shamea Morton that she denied. What changed is the timing and the packaging.
During the marriage, talking about their sex life was part of the brand. After the divorce, Burruss’s position is that consent to the act is not consent to the press tour. Tucker’s position is that she already put the subject in the public record, and that his project is about his feelings, not a sex recap.
Both things can be true at once. A couple can have discussed an open bedroom on reality TV and still feel exposed when one of them repeats it, months after the split, in a trailer designed to sell tickets. That is why the internet reaction split so quickly. Some viewers heard Burruss drawing a reasonable post-divorce boundary. Others heard Tucker pointing out a double standard. On X, replies to the radio clips included both: that he should not be discussing the mother of his children’s private sex life, and that nobody would watch his documentary if Kandi’s name were not attached to it.
Tucker is not pretending the attention is accidental. He is taking ’Til Divorce Do Us Part and his film Don’t Bring Your Man to Atlanta on a multi-city theater tour, with New York dates listed for October 2–4. The radio hit was also a promo stop. He can say he is processing a divorce in public and still be using the most viral detail from the marriage to get people in the door. Those motives are not mutually exclusive.
What this moment actually reveals
The X post that prompted this article captured the headline people wanted: Todd apologizes. The interview underneath it is a familiar post-reality-TV maneuver. Acknowledge the hurt. Reject the characterization. Keep the project moving.
Tucker wants credit for not “smearing” Burruss while continuing to build a tour around the idea that her version of the story left things out. Burruss wants the bedroom declared off-limits now that the marriage is over, after years of a public life in which almost nothing stayed off-limits. Their children still have to live in the space between those two strategies.
If there is a real apology in Thursday’s interview, it is this much: Tucker says he did not want the war, would not have chosen the divorce, and still considers Burruss “his people.” If there is a real limit to that apology, it is everything else he said in the same hour — that her statement is wrong, that her team bungled it, and that the trailer did not reveal anything the audience had not already been invited to wonder about.
The marriage is over. The argument about who gets to narrate it is not.